Fat Can Be Sexy

By lunaKM

Hi, I’m luna and I’m fat. Not just fat, but obese, or in medical terms I’m morbidly obese. I’m comfortable being fat. It’s who I am and how I see the world. I like that I’m soft and curvy. My embracing being fat has become a enlightening experience. It’s the most free I’ve ever felt. I’m not chained to society’s beliefs about my size anymore. I’m sexy and desirable and enjoy showing that off. I use the word fat not as a chain around my neck but as an identifier. Others can certainly use chubby, bbw, rubenesque, plump or any other label. I’m comfortable with fat.

I’ve been overweight since I was 10, before the nightly news made it a popular headline; I was the image of childhood obesity. It doesn’t matter why or how I became overweight, I stayed that way throughout school and am now a size 30 at age 33. You’ve probably seen my body type in those famous headless images that grace news stories talking about the growing epidemic or some study to do with growing concerns of illnesses ‘related’ to obesity.

But I’m also the woman you’ll see working out next to you at the gym, eating healthy food and picking vegetables over fried food. My glucose, cholesterol and blood pressure are all normal. My Doctor has even said that I’m just one of the obese who are healthy and fat and there is no research to explain why. Yeah, that’s right. I’m a medical oddity. I’m healthy fat. What the heck?!

It’s hard to be seen as healthy when you carry more than a little extra weight. I have to work harder to appear attractive and then that’s not even a guarantee that I’ll be viewed as anything more than a fat person playing dress up. And why would we want to make ourselves look attractive? Because, I’m a sexual being too. As a sexual being I want to attract positive attention.

Being fat has something of a stigma and a taboo where sex and attraction are concerned. How many people really think being fat has anything to do with our sexual desire, and the attraction we have to other people? I have a very healthy sex life, thank you very much. I’m not desperate for attention and won’t have sex with anyone who asks. These are stereotypes that society wants you to believe about being fat because being fat is evil and should be avoided at all costs. Oh really?

Entering adulthood as a fat person was a wake up call. I had this belief that all the cruel names and rude looks that I got growing up would go away with the maturity of age. I was wrong. In fact, I’ve encountered even more now that I’m sexually active. For example, when an average woman talks about sex, men are falling all over themselves to be closer to her. When a fat woman talks about sex I get a repulsed, “I can’t believe you even think you’ll get laid” look and a wide berth.

I can be the life of the party and I too, can have men craving my attention. I’m sexually open and have a large sexual repertoire. I’m sexy, kinky, willing to try what other women may not because it’s ‘dirty’ and am not afraid to show it. Just ask my fiance.

I’m hoping, through my voice and this column, to share my personal stories of being fat, talk about how to be sexy, dress sexy, being comfortable in your skin, how to embrace and enjoy fat sex, and probably dispel a myth or two.

Let’s make fat sexy again.