With the holidays coming around the corner, it is the time where people get together to celebrate. In the kink scene, there can be a number of different social gatherings. There is the conference, the workshop, a munch, or a play party are examples. But sometimes it can be more enjoyable to socialize without worrying […]
“I know for a FACT that, if I actually wanted to or TRIED, I could fuck ANY ONE of my ex-girlfriends!” My other male co-workers nodded in unison at The Cartoonist’s affirmative statement. “Bullshit,” I replied. I demanded that there was no way in hell any guy I’d already been with could just magically get […]
Alright everyone, it’s time for the requisite holiday gift-giving guide! A tradition of sharing favorites from the year which will make the recipient happy all the next year long! Some of these do have affiliate code links, but I never recommend anything unless I actually believe it’s a quality product or service. Personal recommendations should […]
It seems that fashion in the United States is made for the thin….at least when it comes to women. Sizes that most stores carry and sizes women actually wear are quite disproportionate. The average woman in this country wears a size 14, while Hollister, Abercrombie and Fitch, Wet Seal, Urban Outfitters and Zara don’t even […]
I decided to meditate before a play session earlier this month. I had a busy morning. I had some spiritual meetings to attend before I came back to being present for a play session, and since I was hyper-focused on everything going on, short of what I really should have been focusing on, I decided […]
There’s something of a crisis of celebrity in kink world. There just aren’t enough superstars for us to look up to. This is completely opposite of what we hear about mainstream society, where celebrity worship is blamed for the downfall of society on a regular basis. Kink-dom does have a few who qualify for name-in-lights […]
Perhaps the most prevailing trope, the belief to trump all beliefs, about people with disabilities and sex is that we have more important things to worry about, more important things to focus on, than being sexual. Sex permeates our culture, affecting everything from hemlines on skirts to the way cars are advertised, yet for people […]
While reading a certain current, popular fiction novel about BDSM, I pushed past my distaste for the characters and the writing style to find something I did enjoy. Paperwork. It is not the legal aspect that draws me in, though I can understand how that could become a fetish. What draws me to the fetishism […]
The first time I stepped inside a Catholic church was in Quito, Ecuador. I was a college student living abroad and fascinated by the cathedral that sat at the center of the city. The flagstones leading to the entrance were worn by the footsteps of thousands of feet and almost black with age and grime. […]
Polyamory and poly relationships are complex. Which is no surprise if you know anything about or have any experience with polyamory. But for people new to poly, managing poly relationships is an exercise in higher math that they might not be aware of. Let’s take a simple example, and one common to the kink world. […]