Last weekend was another example of wishing I could be in two places at once. I was originally going to be attending the Good Vibrations “Sex Summit”, a day-long conference featuring some of the most coveted educators and activists in the field. It seems that almost every weekend, across the USA, there is some sort […]
One of the paramitas, which really bridges Buddhism and Kink together smoothly, is a continuous self-conflict for me. Discipline, needed in almost any long-term commitment be it relationships or spirituality, has a general definition that can either be taken one of two ways. During my last training course when there was time for Q&A, I dropped a […]
In 1994, Pat Califia committed her thoughts on gender, sexuality, censorship, kink, prostitution, safer sex, and leather to print in a book titled Public Sex: The Culture of Radical Sex. As an outspoken, self-identified leather dyke, Califia took on laymen and academics alike for “white-washing” and “sanitizing” sex and its transformative and radical abilities. She […]
Last week my three-year-old started nursery school. My ex-husband chose a Catholic school nearby and I agreed that we should enroll her there. I squelched my trepidation and tried to focus on the benefits of a Catholic education. Although we had agreed to raise our daughter Catholic years before she was born, my relationship with […]
Accessibility. We tend to give that a lot of lip service, whether we’re talking about sex education or kink events, but honestly, do we even know what that actually means? In conversation about events, we speak to wanting them to be accessible, and everyone nods their head, but how do we know what accessible is […]
Today is Halloween, which means eating candy until you puke, prank calling everyone you know and dressing up in fabulous costumes. Speaking of costumes, Have you noticed how Halloween costumes seem to be…designed differently for men and women? Costumes seem to always be gendered and clearly “belong” to one gender or another. And not just […]
Editors Note: This article is about consensual BDSM. The author nor the site condones any time of non-consensual abuse. If someone wants to be beaten and is beaten, are they really being beaten? Of course they are! If someone wants to be tied up and is tied up, are they really being tied up? Of […]
Over in the sex education, public health, youth advocacy sphere, the month of October has been selected for the month to encourage parents to talk to their children about sexuality. The public health campaign is simply called, “Let’s Talk” it was started by the awesome Advocates For Youth, They support parents and caregivers in their […]
A central concept in Taoism is that of p’u, the uncarved block. When a woodcarver looks at such a block, he can see within its simple material the potential to be many things. He can shape it into a knife, a spoon, a spear, a bowl, even a paddle. By his choice, action, and skill […]
I am a makeup amateur. No lie. I wear it every single day, but I prefer the look that makes me appear like I’m not wearing any makeup. And to support my claim, I can open up my makeup bag and show you eyeshadow that I bought in honor of my nuptials. Nine years ago. […]