Last weekend I experienced the following: My hand was kissed in a gloriously, old-fashioned way I’ve only read about in books. I touched a friend’s party dress and spike heels. I received a lovely hug from an actress in the adult film industry. Perhaps these situations seem unusual to you. Perhaps they seem unconnected. Perhaps […]
When SpicySubscriptions.com contacted me about doing a review of their product, I was definitely intrigued. Getting a box of sexy goodies in the mail? Sounds like fun! Looking at their website, which is bright and perky, it was easy to understand how the product works. They have a very thorough FAQ page and a loyalty/word […]
As the bright greens of summer fade into the golden hues of fall, the way most of us dress will change with the seasons. While some of us live in climates that don’t vary much as the world tilts on its axis, many of us see more drastic changes in temperature. The transitional periods can make […]
Every person comes to business ownership or freelancing in a different way, but there are certain themes that pervade the topic and as business advisers, we see them folks who are thinking of taking the plunge. Some of these themes are true no matter what industry the soon-to-be business owners will practice in, but some […]
“I don’t get it! What did I do wrong?!” My sister’s words still ring in my ears as I type this. We’ve all done it at least once in our lives. Maybe women more so than men, maybe some more so than others…but it happens. No, it’s never pretty once we’re finally out of it […]
Very few people have been given healthy approval, support and respectful privacy to self-pleasure. On the contrary, most people have vivid memories of being overtly shamed at a young age by others about the natural discovery of sexual self-stimulation. Just a few short decades ago, the ignorance and shaming of masturbation in the medical field […]
I recently had the experience of becoming friends with my fear. Fear can exist in many ways and in Buddhism, it is one of the key beliefs of meditation, and throughout your day, you have to sit with it. Not push it away, not try to block it out, but acknowledge that thoughts exist and […]
Often those that participate in kink, BDSM, and alternative lifestyles like to think of themselves as social outlaws, people that live and love on the edge. They view themselves as renegades and outsiders, shirking the rule of mainstream society. And, in some ways, I suppose this is true. In comparison to mainstream culture, kink is […]
OK, I will confess, I really wanted to write something else. I really wanted to write about the interesting obscenity case going on in the United Kingdom, or about whether prostitution laws apply to pro-dommes. I really wasn’t planning on writing another “you can’t consent to assault in the context of a BDSM relationship” article. […]
Sometimes, when I take a moment to look around the dungeon and really take in all the scenes that are happening and the conversations going on, I start to feel as though being kinky has become a competitive sport. When I first entered the kink and BDSM community, it was more of the old guard […]