This article is a continuation of Experiments for Better Sex: Part 1 So now for the specifics… 1. Identify The first thing you have to do is take a good look at your sex life and identify what’s going on. Admit you have a problem, in other words. Ask yourself—and your partner—two questions: What do […]
There I was, like so many others in the lunchrooms of corporate America, watching a coworker read 50 Shades of Grey. She asked my opinion, and I politely declined to share it. I haven’t read the book. I’m not interested in passing judgment on the book. Plenty of other folks have read it and rendered […]
Many times when discussing toys, the conversation revolves around the experience of the one receiving instead of the one giving the punishment. I would like to share my experiences in searching for the right toy. When shopping for a paddle to use on my partner, I explored many materials; rubber, leather, acrylic, and wood. I […]
Conservative Christians would have you believe that the founder of their faith demanded sexual purity – no nookie before marriage, not much after, and all restricted to heterosexual intercourse. As one talk-show host summed it up: “Sex is so dirty, you should save it for the one you love.” Uh huh. Well, guess what? Jesus […]
One of the models I tend towards with regards to Power and Authority Exchange is based on Taoism and the interplay between yin and yang. For a quick primer on how this may play out in the context of authority in D/s relationships, you can read a piece I wrote on Intent v. Rules. You […]
Kelsey Obsession Some sex workers say, “Its just a job.” But if I wanted “just a job” I’d go sit at a desk for 40 hours a week. To me, sex work is a lifestyle. Because in this business the most important asset I have is, well, me. My sexuality. My self. I’m in sex […]
As a young boy, discovering the world of sexuality consisted of sneaking off to watch porn and getting misinformation about sex from older kids. Pornography taught me that my sexual experiences should be self-indulgent and emotionally detached. My friends taught me that it’s all about making the girls scream my name. Before I even had […]
Full Disclosure: Crystal Delights is a favorite Erotication sponsor & I’m personally a huge fan of their business model, they’re high quality products and their awesome founders. That being said, I only promote businesses that I would recommend personally! When did you first get the idea for Crystal Delights Toys? Crystal Delights actually first started […]
Q. I’m currently in a relationship with a male and female partner who live together. I am a single, kinky (more or less queer) parent venturing forth into the world of poly again. My partners and I are arguing like mad over their boundaries, or lack their of. It’s getting intense and near breakup time. […]
Long before we grew up to become the wonderful kinky adults we are now, we had our first run-ins with Someone Telling Us What To Do. There were parents, grandparents, babysitters, and teachers. As we grew older we added coaches, politicians, and bosses. All these people have something in common – to some degree, they […]