I’m considering a new Dominant these days, and he’s a fan of rope bondage. He’s converting me into a rope bunny, one body harness at a time. He has several bundles of rope dedicated specifically to use with me, and he’ll tell me in advance about the knots he’s studying. When we finally meet, we’re […]
By Erin Fae
You probably know Gustav Klimt. Even if you don’t recognize his name, you’ve definitely seen his iconic painting, The Kiss. Klimt (1862—1918) was a Symbolist painter
LGBT people have sacrificed a lot to be whole sexual beings. Often, we have had to go against the tide of peer pressure, cultural norms and religious traditions just to simply be honest and authentic people in terms of our sexuality. I think it is then particularly challenging for our community to come to grips […]
Sex and gender are often used synonymously. However, they mean far from the same thing. Sex refers to your biological makeup as being a male or female that is determined by your external genitalia, gonads and chromosomes. Gender refers to the social meaning and identity that is formed and is complimentary (most often) to your […]
I had been preparing, worrying, thinking about the event for over 4 months, as soon as my presentation was accepted. Although I’ve been a BDSM speaker for almost 10 years, I’d never been so nervous! I’d always wanted to go to SXSW and now I’d be doing a presentation (for only 15 minutes, but still […]
William Saletan argues on slate.com that BDSM is not a sexual orientation. Dan Savage agrees (Dan would likely want me to clarify that he doesn’t agree with much else that Saletan says on this matter in case you don’t click on the link to Dan’s article). Let’s take a look at this question, shall we? […]
This April marks a special anniversary of the International Ms Bootblack Contest and as part of the celebration we are creating a documentary about bootblacking, women bootblacks and the IMsBB Contest. The “High Shine: 15 Years of International Ms Bootblack” Kickstarter is down to an hourly countdown–it ends ***8:59pm SATURDAY (PST)*** Every dollar counts…all additional […]
During one particular performance in the last couple of years I was too attached to the outcome of a scene/performance that I acted in a way that I’m not terribly proud of. It’s difficult to admit to mistakes, especially when perfectionism is something of struggle, but I think it’s important to talk about times when […]
I have always tinkered with my hair style and color. My very first haircut was at my mother’s hands and was a chin-length bob. As soon I was old enough to form an opinion, I stubbornly refused another haircut until my father offered to buy the biggest, plushest unicorn in the toy store if I’d […]
If you follow my “Deeper Love” movement, you will notice that I always express how much I honor and support women stepping into their feminine power. Contrary to what some people seem to assume, my admiration for a woman’s power has nothing to do with receiving sexual gratification in return. There are many reasons why […]