Heather Cole

Heather grew up in the middle of cow country in a rural, traditional family. She learned how to bake pies, muck out stalls and sew at an early age. She also discovered sex. Once she entered college, Heather began exploring her sexuality in earnest. It wasn’t until she was living on her own, a young professional in a big city, that she discovered kink. Or rather, it tied her up and beat her ass until she finally admitted that it was her dream come true. Read full profile

What Good is a Saint from 1535?

 Posted by on October 4, 2013
Oct 042013
 
What Good is a Saint from 1535?

Having my daughter go through Catholic education has been helping to educate me too. I wasn’t raised Catholic, so there are huge gaps in my knowledge of saints, for example. Last week, my daughter was told the story of Saint Teresa de Ávila in Sunday school, and we had a conversation about St. Teresa’s vision […]

Coping with Seasonal Changes

 Posted by on September 28, 2013
Sep 282013
 
Coping with Seasonal Changes

My column here at A Kink in the Curves is all about body image, the occasional fashion tip (like: what should I wear to my next kinky play party), and beauty products. In this month’s article, I’m going to tackle two aspects of the changing season that trip me up every year: less light and […]

Jul 042013
 
Confession and Absolution in Catholicism and BDSM

I resisted the Sacrament of Penance (confession) for most of my Catholic life, mainly because I didn’t understand it. If my sins had fallen into the category of “I took the Lord’s name in vain” I might not have fought against it so hard. But the mere idea of telling a fellow human being that […]

Jun 162013
 
Hello, Existential Crisis, My Name is Heather

This year I dreaded my birthday. I spent months agonizing about it. At the end of May I turned forty—the big 4-0. Although I knew it was approaching (I had thirty-nine years of anticipation) I wouldn’t let myself ponder its significance. I shoved it into the background of the vision of my future, reducing it […]

How Rope Helps Me Love My Curves

 Posted by on March 30, 2013
Mar 302013
 
How Rope Helps Me Love My Curves

I’m considering a new Dominant these days, and he’s a fan of rope bondage. He’s converting me into a rope bunny, one body harness at a time. He has several bundles of rope dedicated specifically to use with me, and he’ll tell me in advance about the knots he’s studying. When we finally meet, we’re […]

New Hair for a New Phase

 Posted by on March 11, 2013
Mar 112013
 
New Hair for a New Phase

I have always tinkered with my hair style and color. My very first haircut was at my mother’s hands and was a chin-length bob. As soon I was old enough to form an opinion, I stubbornly refused another haircut until my father offered to buy the biggest, plushest unicorn in the toy store if I’d […]

Making Peace in the Lenten Season

 Posted by on February 27, 2013
Feb 272013
 
Making Peace in the Lenten Season

Lent means two different things to me. On one hand, the onset of Lent means Bible study and prayer. It reminds me of the forty days before I converted to Catholicism, a time of deep introspection and learning. I was part of a small class at a church in my hometown, and the priest who […]

February Beauty Item Finds

 Posted by on February 6, 2013
Feb 062013
 
February Beauty Item Finds

I’m pale, y’all. Pale with the delicate skin of a hothouse orchid. OK, that’s an utter exaggeration except for the pale part. My skin is sensitive but in the dry skin, alligator kind of way. Not a pretty orchid way, because that would just be awesome and ethereal. No, I spend a couple hours out […]

A Love for Mary

 Posted by on January 28, 2013
Jan 282013
 
A Love for Mary

Recently I volunteered at my daughter’s Catholic nursery school and spent the day helping children and teachers with the day’s activities. My favorite time was sitting in a circle, listening to a story about hibernating bears and singing songs. There was a song that said “good morning” to God, and they genuflected before and after […]