SarahSloane

Sarah Sloane is a sexuality & relationship educator from the Washington DC metro area. She has taught literally hundreds of classes for Sex-Positive, BDSM, and Relationship-oriented organizations and events throughout the US, Canada, and overseas for 9 years; she also works with individuals & small groups to learn skills and techniques to enhance their lives. Additionally, she is a popular guest on numerous podcasts and internet radio shows, and delights in speaking her mind and creating dialogue with listeners across the globe. Read Full Profile...

Thanks, but no thanks!

Posted by SarahSloane on May 19, 2011

May 192011

By Sarah Sloane

Dear Sarah,

My problem isn’t so much about getting into a relationship, it’s about staying away from one! I am somewhat experienced in the BDSM scene, but I realized I’m having trouble saying no to people for play and sex…

Single, searching submissive

Posted by SarahSloane on March 25, 2011

Mar 252011

By Sarah Sloane

Dear Sarah,

Last year in your column, you wrote about what a dominant should look for when screening potential submissives. As a submissive, I find that there are a lot of people out there that are looking for someone to be submissive for them, but I have trouble narrowing down the people who are serious about it

Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

Posted by SarahSloane on February 19, 2011

Feb 192011

By Sarah Sloane

Dear Readers,

This month, my column isn’t an answer to a single email. It’s a response to a number of people who contacted me in various ways to ask if I could give them some input on how to handle breakups involving our partners and their other partners, or within a poly group.

Changing Dynamics

Posted by SarahSloane on January 13, 2011

Jan 132011

By Sarah Sloane

Dear Sarah,

My partner (who I have been with for years) is coming to terms with the fact that he’s no longer feeling submissive – but now feels very dominant. As a dominant woman who has no desire to switch, I’m really confused.

Complicated Polyamory

Posted by SarahSloane on November 20, 2010

Nov 202010

By Sarah Sloane

Dear Sarah,

I am in a poly network that mostly works for me, but one of my partner’s partners and I do not get along. We have tried several ways of communicating and all of it seems to end badly. The other partner & I agreed to not have much contact, but my partner still gets caught in the middle

‘Polishing up’ service skills

Posted by SarahSloane on September 15, 2010

Sep 152010

Dear Sarah,

I’m a service submissive that is currently looking for a Dominant, and in the meantime I’d like to improve my skills. Do you have any recommendations for ‘polishing’ up my service skills?

Service Advice

Posted by SarahSloane on July 18, 2010

Jul 182010

Dear Sarah:

As a service submissive I know my voice should be respectful when I’m addressing my dominant, but I have a naturally bratty tone to my voice. What can I do to improve that, and make sure that I sound as polite as I want to?

Enjoy Service, Dislike Assignments

Posted by SarahSloane on June 4, 2010

Jun 042010

“I enjoy service submission, but sometimes dislike the actual assignments given by Dominants. How do I do things well, when I don’t want to do it?”

That’s totally an understandable situation. I personally hated cleaning the glass & frames for the artwork in my Leather Daddy’s house, to the point where I would literally have to fight myself to do it – so I definitely can relate! Here are a few things to think about…

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