by Amethyst Wonder
I know quite a few people who claim to have had success on CollarMe. I am not one of them. There was the guy who had not one punctuation mark in his message. There was the guy who wrote me a semi-decent message, only to write another message 34 minutes later berating me for not answering quickly enough.
It may shock you to learn that I, who fancy myself a writer, appreciate words. Words have meanings, and using the right word helps us to communicate effectively. I’m also a huge proponent of proper grammar, punctuation, and spelling. Among other things, my love and respect for language are right there in almost every online […]
By Amethyst Wonder
This past month, I’ve gotten at least three messages from people who I’ve already talked to/met/gone out with and, for whatever reason, dismissed as potential partners. Actually, they were all dismissed as potential anything (for me).
By Amethyst Wonder
Way, way, back in the day, when it first occurred to me to look for kinky partners on the internet, before I’d ever had casual partners, before my needs had evolved into their current state of complexity, before I developed my processing or communication skills, I had an online interaction that I wish I’d handled differently.
By Amethyst Wonder
You know what I’m really starting to hate? People sending me messages written as though they know me.
This is the verbatim text of two actual messages I received on FetLife…
By Amethyst Wonder
Several months ago, a FetLife friend commented on a photo that I found intriguing. It was of a young man who was not only attractive, but seemed intelligent and thoughtful. I took notice of the young man, but didn’t take any action.
By Amethyst Wonder
So far, I’ve written about Mr. Good on Paper, Mr. Emphatically Not Gay, Mr. Judgy Pants, and Mr. No Short Term Memory. By now, you may be under the mistaken impression that only males are the perpetrators on online social ineptitude. You would be wrong.
This month I’m writing about someone, a female someone, I have named the Sexual Orientation Police.
By Amethyst Wonder
I was going to write about the phenomenon of Mr. Cut & Paste. You know the guy: he sends you a message that is clearly a form letter he sends out to everyone he has any potential interest in. It’s annoying. Anyone who may be employing this method, take note: we know.
By Amethyst
One of my profiles (which happens to not be a kink site) lists a few quotes from some of my favorite fandoms and encourages messages from people who can identify those quotes. I got a message from a guy who identified three or four out of six quotes
by Amethyst Wonder
Unlike last month’s article, this is not about a guy I met online. This is about four guys I met online. I’m lumping them all together because they shared the same annoying trait. Each of these episodes begins the same; they seem like a good fit for something I’m looking for (usually ongoing casual sex). Each of these episodes ends the same; they make some declaration about not being into “any of that gay shit,”