A woman’s friends are incredulously disbelieving when she tells them that she and her husband, who uses a wheelchair and has several medical conditions, have an active sex life. A young blind man, who has just realized he is gay, asks his trusted resource teacher to help him learn how he can join his high […]
Perhaps the most prevailing trope, the belief to trump all beliefs, about people with disabilities and sex is that we have more important things to worry about, more important things to focus on, than being sexual. Sex permeates our culture, affecting everything from hemlines on skirts to the way cars are advertised, yet for people […]
Often I have wondered if the way I touch someone has been physically and emotionally perceived as I intended it. Was the touch received as gentle when I meant it to be firm? Was the touch received as intimate when I meant it to be casual? It’s hard, really, to practice touch. There are so […]
Last weekend I experienced the following: My hand was kissed in a gloriously, old-fashioned way I’ve only read about in books. I touched a friend’s party dress and spike heels. I received a lovely hug from an actress in the adult film industry. Perhaps these situations seem unusual to you. Perhaps they seem unconnected. Perhaps […]
You’ve put together the perfect profile for your favorite dating sites. It’s pithy, witty, sexy, and it’s totally you! Now it’s time to pick out a profile picture that’s equally intriguing, sexy, and totally you. Or will it be totally you? Many of us have things that make us uncomfortable about our bodies, things we […]
The first unit of the literature component of my Grade 9 English class was Greek mythology. The myths chronicled in our textbook were brief and to the point, with high drama, complex relationships, and yet a familiarly human element. What was presented as a series of random stories coalesced into a universe with rules and […]