By Katie Diamond
Okay, kids. Let’s get real.
Let’s talk about…sex. Mmm hmm, I saw you double-take. Close that CrashPad porn, turn off the latest Gaga single, and settle into your seat, kiddos.
Sex.
On the PolyWeekly Podcast, Cunning Minx sensually says at the end of each segment, “Because it’s not ALL about the sex.”
By GrayDancer
Hey, tops. How do you feel when a bottom says “Why did you do that?”
Hey, bottoms. How do you feel when a top slaps your hand away from the rope and mutters “Don’t help.”
Here’s an even more fun one, for those of you in a relationship, mono or non- : “So, now that we’ve met [NAME], what do you think of [GENDER PRONOUN]?”
By Sarah Sloane
Dear Readers,
This month, my column isn’t an answer to a single email. It’s a response to a number of people who contacted me in various ways to ask if I could give them some input on how to handle breakups involving our partners and their other partners, or within a poly group.
By Rayne
I always find it difficult to explain our dynamic. I am a willing slave. I gave M complete ownership of me. And yet, saying that doesn’t tell you much. For a person can own someone completely, but choose not to take complete control. And unless you’ve been exposed to kink on some level, the images that come to mind when one mentions slavery are not pretty.
By Amethyst Wonder
I was going to write about the phenomenon of Mr. Cut & Paste. You know the guy: he sends you a message that is clearly a form letter he sends out to everyone he has any potential interest in. It’s annoying. Anyone who may be employing this method, take note: we know.
By Katie Diamond
Let’s face it–not everything is peachy keen and sunshine sparkles when it comes to negotiating a relationship, regardless of whether that relationship is open or poly or mono. Communication is a sticky thing, and sometimes, that stickiness can cause the wheels of a relationship to grind to a halt.
By Indigo
I find it funny that Nina Hartley knows the dynamics of my relationship. My partner V and Nina became fast friends after they met at a workshop at the Pleasure Chest in New York. V started spending time with Nina when she came to town and I knew V went to her when we were struggling in our relationship
By Micah Schneider
I recently spent the weekend at one of my favorite conventions of the entire year. Arisia is the largest sci-fi convention in New England. Almost three thousand geeks, nerds and freaks of every kind come together in a four-day gathering unlike any other conference I’ve attended.
By Rayne
People occasionally talk about ignoring someone (or being ignored) as punishment in a consensual owner/property relationship. For those who believe in ”Let the punishment fit the crime.” it’s often used in response to the submissive being disrespectful in speech. And M has never really used it.
By Sarah Sloane
Dear Sarah,
My partner (who I have been with for years) is coming to terms with the fact that he’s no longer feeling submissive – but now feels very dominant. As a dominant woman who has no desire to switch, I’m really confused.