One of the models I tend towards with regards to Power and Authority Exchange is based on Taoism and the interplay between yin and yang. For a quick primer on how this may play out in the context of authority in D/s relationships, you can read a piece I wrote on Intent v. Rules. You […]
Here we have the makings of a debate that rivals one about which baseball team is the best–ask 20 people what a submissive is and you will get 21 answers! People will get in each other’s face, kick up dirt and, sometimes, come close to an all out brawl. What if you believe that a […]
You’ve put together the perfect profile for your favorite dating sites. It’s pithy, witty, sexy, and it’s totally you! Now it’s time to pick out a profile picture that’s equally intriguing, sexy, and totally you. Or will it be totally you? Many of us have things that make us uncomfortable about our bodies, things we […]
You know how it goes; someone does (or doesn’t do) something, and you get pissed off. In the pissed-offness, you say something to the effect of “you made me angry,” and things go from there. Well, my friends, I’m here to suggest something to you – something that might just shift a paradigm you’ve held […]
Keeping a sexual connection in a long term relationship is not a given, but with some intention and self-awareness, I believe it’s possible. In some ways, I think it’s a choice to believe that it’s possible—I am invested in loving someone over a long period of time, and I want it to be possible. I […]
**This article addresses erotic knife play. It could be a possible trigger for some. It is intended as an educational article for consenting adults** “A deadly weapon. Sharp. Slick. Seductive. Sliding across the skin slowly, not knowing where it will stop. Caressing the curve of her neck, causing her skin to unconsciously shiver with desire. […]
I’ve noticed over my years in this fun-filled kinky world of ours, is that some of us grew into our kinks, while others have known since childhood. I fall into the latter category: had my first subspace experience in nursery school, in fact. It wasn’t a sexual encounter – I was the ‘patient’ in a […]
There comes a point in nearly everyone’s life as a polyamorous person where they ask themselves the single most important question they can. Unfortunately, it usually comes under a cloud of doubt, pain and misery. It is almost always a “newbie” question, but it can happen to anyone. The way it usually happens is all […]
Keeping a sexual connection in a long term relationship is not a given, but with some intention and self-awareness, I believe it’s possible. In some ways, I think it’s a choice to believe that it’s possible—I am invested in loving someone over a long period of time, and I want it to be possible. I […]
One of the most common questions polyamorous people get from our monogamous friends and family is about jealousy. Don’t we ever experience jealousy? How do we handle the green-eyed monster when we do? So for the record, yes, poly people do sometimes experience jealousy. I suspect we get jealous about as often as monogamous people […]