Jul 172012
 
“What about me?” The Rights of the Dominant

Much has been written about how a Dominant/Top should care for their submissive/bottom during the evolution of a scene.  Concerns over possible abuse, inaccurate techniques and unsafe surroundings have been discussed, lectured and written about to no end.  As the dominant ones, we are told it is our mandatory responsibility, for all our encounters, to […]

Broaching the Topic: BDSM

 Posted by on July 16, 2012
Jul 162012
 
Broaching the Topic: BDSM

This article is the second of a two-part series about raising the question of BDSM with a potential romantic partner one has met without knowing whether there is a shared interest in BDSM. So you have met someone and you think you hear opportunity knocking. What do do? If you are going to raise the […]

Jul 122012
 
BDSM Roles, “Topping From The Bottom”, and “Service Top”

This is is an excerpt from ‘The S&M Feminist: Best Of Clarisse Thorn’  You can buy The S&M Feminist for Amazon Kindle here or other ebook formats here or in paperback here. I often say that all consensual sexuality is okay. Open relationships? S&M? Same-sex partnerships? One-night stands? Porn? I could care less how people […]

A Mono Girl’s Guide to Dating Poly People

 Posted by on July 4, 2012
Jul 042012
 
A Mono Girl’s Guide to Dating Poly People

With an onslaught of books, articles, and websites dealing with non-monogamy and poly relationships, more people seem to be giving “alternate relationship structures” a try. Books, such as Opening Up and Sex at Dawn, have helped individuals that felt trapped and alienated by societal expectations of monogamy to consider options beyond one-on-one coupledom. A variety […]

Oct 072011
 

By Micah Schneider In the last month, I’ve seen this question come up in more than one place. Is polyamory something that you do, or is it something that you are? Are some people poly the same way some people are homosexual or straight, submissive or dominant or a greedy bisexual switch? My answer is […]

Novice Dominant

 Posted by on October 4, 2011
Oct 042011
 

By Sarah Sloane Dear Sarah, I am a novice dominant and I’m interested in finding a submissive; I’ve been trying to get to know people at my local munch group (as well as online) but I’m having trouble with finding someone special. Some people treat me like I don’t know anything because I’m young (I’m […]

Bondage Free of Restraint

 Posted by on September 29, 2011
Sep 292011
 

By Jay Morgan One of the many reasons I like to play golf is that it is entirely up to me, and only me, to play well. No matter whether you are a professional, amateur, or weekend hacker, every golf course gives each player the same chances to score well. Similar to bowling, billards, or […]

Schrodinger’s Heart

 Posted by on September 21, 2011
Sep 212011
 

By Graydancer “It’s hard to wait for something you know might never happen, but it’s hard to give up when it’s everything you want.” – SexCigarsBooze, via Twitter Change is hard. It reflects an uncertainty to life that we don’t like. We like to feel like we know what’s going to happen, even when the […]

When you Leave the Scene…

 Posted by on September 15, 2011
Sep 152011
 

By Morgan When you leave the scene, it doesn’t leave you. I’ve lost count of the number of times a guy I’ve been involved with who at some point decided to leave the scene, only to come back in six months with a sob story and apology. My usual response is to send him straight […]

Sep 052011
 

By Sea

This article is third of a three-series article that explains what BDSM is, and why people enjoy it. It would be helpful to those with or without an interest in BDSM who wish to know more about the terms and origins