By Sarah Sloane
Dear Sarah,
I identify as a slave in a full-time Master/slave dynamic with a strong service component to our relationship. I also suffer from chronic pain which has persisted over a year and escalated in the last few months.
By Graydancer
At the recent Fusion event put on by Dark Odyssey, I was to do a demonstration for a class of how to do a slow, hot, sexy rope scene. Because, after all, I’m totally qualified to show others how it’s done, right? (“Bris is the name, Hugh Bris”).
By Indigo
“Let me show you how strong you are.”
This comes from Sara every time we prepare for a play event and every time, I’m intrigued, frightened and nervous for the play that is yet to come.
By Sea
This article is first of a three-series article that explains what BDSM is, and why people enjoy it. It would be helpful to those with or without an interest in BDSM who wish to know more about the terms and origins of interest, and those into BDSM who are looking for ideas for how to explain it to others.
By Amethyst Wonder
Way, way, back in the day, when it first occurred to me to look for kinky partners on the internet, before I’d ever had casual partners, before my needs had evolved into their current state of complexity, before I developed my processing or communication skills, I had an online interaction that I wish I’d handled differently.
By Micah Schneider
If you’ve been paying attention to this column since it began last year, there is a new article every month. The exception being when our little Munchkin was born three months ago, but I got a pass for that.
By Sarah Sloane
Dear Sarah:
What would you suggest for someone who struggles with expressing sexual and S&M desires? I have them…in spades…but I have issues asking for what I want, both because of fear of rejection but also struggling with seeming “too weird”. I have an odd play history…
By Jay Morgan
As humans, we possess a complex set of emotions, unique to each of us and our environment. Sometimes we are not always in the mood for being a sadistic top, loving bottom, or stern taskmaster. Emotional involvement, financial obligations, kids, exes…
By GrayDancer
If you don’t know what I’m talking about, count yourself lucky.
But I’m betting most of you do. Life is pretty messy, after all, and it’s not always as easy as finding your wife in bed with the gardner, or the traditional lipstick-on-the-collar.
By Amethyst Wonder
You know what I’m really starting to hate? People sending me messages written as though they know me.
This is the verbatim text of two actual messages I received on FetLife…