Earlier this week when I was at my local meditation center conversing with my meditation mentor about keeping up with at-home practice. For those who don’t know… ideally someone meditates in a specific room in their living habitat which is off-limits to sexual activities. My meditation mentor had suggested that I find a space to do […]
Being kinky can be frustrating, even maddening at times. I remember, as a kid stumbling into my first fantasies, and feeling isolated and freakish, when I realized that some of the things I wanted were pretty exotic compared to most people. I was in my early 20’s before I actively pursued kink with others openly. […]
Having Lao Standards I remember when I first got involved with kink, there was no shortage of people willing to “show me the ropes”, often quite literally. It wasn’t too long after I got started, that I started to hear about “true” dominants, and submissives. But how is one to know who’s got it right? […]
Bodhisattva Warrior, which means attaining enlightenment but foregoing nirvana to help others, is a level of perfection that is far beyond my reaches and understanding to grasp. I view submission as working on imperfections but being accepted for who I am in the now. My submission rarely reaches perfection. There is always something I can work on; […]
By Mako Allen Many years ago, I started going to The Phoenix Society, a scene club in Baltimore. I was brand-new, and while I was bold about seeking out my desires, I did hold back some. I had no problem telling people I wanted to get spanked, but I kept what I thought were my […]
By T.M. Bernard
Look around and note a quiet and compelling cultural shift. In real time and in conjunction with the apparent demise of societal, political, organizational and communal structures, a quiet revolution is taking place…
By Mako Allen
There’s this problem with being kinky: it can slowly drive you insane. The kink itself, that’s not really the problem. It’s the chase for it. Lao-tzu knew all about it.
By Mako Allen
Years ago, I remember being new to kink, and very hungry for it. I spent money I didn’t really have on all sorts of toys and clothes. I embarked on the quest for the most comfortable diaper that would make me feel the most babyish. I tried all sorts of new activities
By C.K. Persons
The United States of America just celebrated its 235th Independence Day. All superficial sentiments aside, the holiday reminds us of the great value of freedom: freedom from anything that strips humans of dignity and freedom for the pursuit of happiness.
By Richard Wagner
Dr. Dick, Were you really a Roman Catholic priest? I’m 38 and Catholic and trying to figure out where I stand sexually. I’d be gay in a second if I had confidence that was my authentic self. I’m definitely bi…