By AliceSin Aerie
If it’s happened once it’s happened a thousand times: You meet someone you think you might like so you make plans, or at least make plans to communicate again, only to have them fall off the face of the planet.
Dec 312013
Apr 072013
By AliceSin Aerie
Within our own minds, the thing that turns us on the most is sacred. For some of us in the kink community the high value we place on our personal kinky hot button can leave us feeling lonely in a crowd, bullied or even make us into bullies ourselves.
Jan 222013
Your new book Playing Well With Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities is soon to be released, why did you two decided to co-author it? Lee – I was at a kink conference where a guy who was new to the scene showed up and was […]
Dec 242012
We’ve all learned the secret to good, successful relationships by now, right? Communicate, communicate, communicate! It’s one of the favorite mantras of relationship counselors the world over. Whether you’re trying to solve issues with integrating your girlfriend’s boyfriend’s new lover into your poly family, planning a special activity with your spouse of 30+ years to […]
Dec 202012
“I want to be a dominant! People tell me I should start out as a submissive. Is that right?” Let’s start by taking a look at two reasons why people might suggest this idea. More so in early days of the public and organized BDSM scene, many saw a hierarchy of ranks between dominants and […]
Dec 142012
With the holidays coming around the corner, it is the time where people get together to celebrate. In the kink scene, there can be a number of different social gatherings. There is the conference, the workshop, a munch, or a play party are examples. But sometimes it can be more enjoyable to socialize without worrying […]
Dec 072012
There’s something of a crisis of celebrity in kink world. There just aren’t enough superstars for us to look up to. This is completely opposite of what we hear about mainstream society, where celebrity worship is blamed for the downfall of society on a regular basis. Kink-dom does have a few who qualify for name-in-lights […]
Dec 032012
The first time I stepped inside a Catholic church was in Quito, Ecuador. I was a college student living abroad and fascinated by the cathedral that sat at the center of the city. The flagstones leading to the entrance were worn by the footsteps of thousands of feet and almost black with age and grime. […]
Nov 172012
Accidents happen. One moment you are enjoying yourself and the next you’ve landed a bruise or welt in the wrong spot, somewhere public and you’ve got work the next day. You have a few options, make up a creative but believable excuse, call in sick, or learn how to camouflage and cover up the mistake. […]
Sep 212011
By Graydancer “It’s hard to wait for something you know might never happen, but it’s hard to give up when it’s everything you want.” – SexCigarsBooze, via Twitter Change is hard. It reflects an uncertainty to life that we don’t like. We like to feel like we know what’s going to happen, even when the […]